This is what I think when I see or hear about a relationship ending in the worst possible way. I do not believe in the saying “’Tis better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all.”

@WatermelonRat  
It’s not, and it isn’t intended to be. I am not in the mood to define and explain Privilege™ and related concepts, but stereotypes against white men aren’t less important because white men are less important, they’re less important because they have less of an effect on people and Society™. The worst a Middle-Class Straight White Male can expect is people making a passing insult, and not, say, using stereotypes as an excuse to actually remove his rights.

@ExtremeLurkerHomeEdition  
Which I’m sure is a great comfort to the people this abuse is being hurled at.

@WatermelonRat  
Well if your issue is with stereotyping, that’s a much bigger problem that affects our female friends so much more than the Nice Guys. Comparatively, it makes the stereotypes against them look like a nonissue.

@ExtremeLurkerHomeEdition  
I don’t dispute that such people exist, my issue is with how broadly and quickly the stereotype is applied. I just got done reading a particularly nasty comments section where this phenomenon was in full bloom. Pay particular attention to the post by user jmorr and the disproportionate response and insinuations it received.

@WatermelonRat  
It’s not guesswork or profiling, since people on Reddit et al. will gladly tell you that’s exactly how they think.

@Background Pony #8972  
You speak awfully authoritatively about how other people think. That’s a common occurence in these “nice guy shaming” threads, but it never fails to leave a bad taste in my mouth how people attempt to psychologically profile people they don’t know.

@Prof.NightJack  
That’s… the generally accepted definition. The concept that a dude thinks he somehow deserves sexual or romantic attention from a girl just because he wants it– and is then pissy and petulant about not getting it– is intrinsic to the term, and the entire reason it was created in the first place; using it to mean “asked for a date and got turned down, neither party made a big deal of it” may be something that some people do, but is most definitely not what the vast majority of people think when they hear the term.

@ExtremeLurkerHomeEdition  
Say what?  

And from this day and moment this my motto shall be.

@Background Pony #8972  
And you one to talk of generalization when you seem to think only people like the ones you said are the only ones to use friendzoned.

@Background Pony #8972  
Funny, I know some girls that use the term and guys that just use it as a way of saying they where turned down, not an excuse of any kind and they don’t think they entitled to any thing.  
Just because you are used to it being used that way doesn’t mean it’s used only that way.

@TheAntiCat  
Not pissy, just stating the fact that Friendzone is a concept and excuse made by fedora wearers that couldn’t laid with a girl.
 
They think that by acting nice and friendly to a girl, they are entitled to have that girl as their girlfriend, but when a girl rejects that offer than the guys treat it as a friendzone that they can climb out of.
 
There is no such thing as a friendzone and I am educating that there is a double standard where when an unattractive guy gets rejected = friendzone but when a girl gets rejected = forever alone.
 
If a girl is not into you, then she’s not into you just like if a guy is not into you then he’s not into you. Move on to the next person, acting nice and friendly is not an entitlement to get a girlfriend. And no, girls don’t like jerks and many of these guys antagonize men that are dating the girls they like as jerks. So there is generalization made by the true jerks AKA the “nice guy”.

@Background Pony #8972  
AAAwwwww, somebody was friendzoned. Why else would you get all pissy about it?

@Background Pony #8972  
Preach it! The fedoras shall burn!

Unlike his fancy mathamatics girls can be so unpredictable and illodgical….

He’s married to his work. Yeah let’s go with that.

@fluttershyfilly  
Nope. His is a life-time committal to the refusal of ever joining up in any relationship.

Hehe, saving this as a reaction.

Amen McIntosh. A-freaking-men!

@Ginger_Fig  
Testify!

@Background Pony #8972
 
@Background Pony #8972
 
Delicious.

>Choose

@Background Pony #FDDD  
I guess it’s inconceivable to guys that there are guys out there that prefer the single life.

@Background Pony #FDDD  
There’s no such thing as a friendzone.
 
That’s just a term that assholes and “nice guys” use when they can’t get laid with a girl.