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@I Was Never Here
 
The trouble with abrasiveness is that it's very, very rarely ever necessary. A softer suggestion would get the point across just fine. Abrasiveness breeds confrontation from people who dislike it, and if you go in knowing that what you say is likely to set someone off, well, you have no one to blame but yourself when people get set off by what you say.


 
I'm the kind of person who gives what I'm given; if you're abrasive, I'm abrasive. If you're a little more tender in your wording, then I return the courtesy. I can appreciate honesty and straightforwardness, but I'll direct you to "Honest Apple" as an example of what happens when you let honesty turn into flat-out abrasion. There's a difference between being straightforward and being unnecessarily abrasive, and my experience is that people who are unapologetic about it fall into the latter camp far too often. If you don't care how it comes off, frankly I'm not gonna care about how my conduct makes _*you_* feel. I'm just gonna shrug it off.


 
Now, following the rules is a different matter; if I'm _*required_* to add those tags, then politely point that out and I'll comply, or report me to a mod if I don't. But being abrasive with me will do you no good.


 
At any rate, the artist tags have been added, and only because the rules evidently require it, though I would have happily done so for a far less abrasive suggestion.


 
Now, how about we just enjoy these pictures of cute ponies drawn by talented artists?

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@I Was Never Here
The trouble with abrasiveness is that it's very, very rarely ever necessary. A softer suggestion would get the point across just fine. Abrasiveness breeds confrontation from people who dislike it, and if you go in knowing that what you say is likely to set someone off, well, you have no one to blame but yourself when people get set off by what you say.

I'm the kind of person who gives what I'm given; if you're abrasive, I'm abrasive. If you're a little more tender in your wording, then I return the courtesy. I can appreciate honesty and straightforwardness, but I'll direct you to "Honest Apple" as an example of what happens when you let honesty turn into flat-out abrasion. There's a difference between being straightforward and being unnecessarily abrasive, and my experience is that people who are unapologetic about it fall into the latter camp far too often. If you don't care how it comes off, frankly I'm not gonna care about how my conduct makes _you_ feel. I'm just gonna shrug it off.

Now, following the rules is a different matter; if I'm _required_ to add those tags, then politely point that out and I'll comply, or report me to a mod if I don't. But being abrasive with me will do you no good.

At any rate, the artist tags have been added, and only because the rules evidently require it, though I would have happily done so for a far less abrasive suggestion.

Now, how about we just enjoy these pictures of cute ponies drawn by talented artists?