This is a serious inquiry and something on my mind today as I had a woman tell me she won't play with me because I identify as Straight. In my mid 40s now and attracted to transgender women, but so long as they look female and not like men. I don't mind they have a dick, not 100% sure at the moment if I'd suck on one. But I have had thoughts of fucking them and jerk off to them fucking women as well as cumming on themselves. I am sure I can go on and on about the subject somewhat but just wondering if this would be considered being Bi or not. I know I am not gay as I enjoy women way to much and it is my go to for porn.

 

No it doesn't make you anything but a person with deep freaky fantasies you want to cum good and do sexy things and everyone should be able to do something really nasty in their life. I've tried to stay away from your exact thoughts but I'd love to be the woman in this story fuck it's so sexy I can't resist it if help you and we can explore anything and much more

 

You are attracted to trans women, and you are attracted to cis women, but you are not attracted to men. That means you are attracted to two genders, and as bi means two, then yes - you're bisexual.

The definition has moved on over the years. When bisexual was first coined, only male and female genders were recognized. So those who are bi like both. These days, there are a few gender identities, which is why people can now identify as pansexual if it really doesn't matter, or stick with bisexual if it's just a few they find appealing.

 

Yes, next question

 

Everyone is bisexual, most just hide behind their fear of the world finding out.

 

Fetlife also has heteroflexible as a category: Basically straight but can be attracted to the same sex or gender.

It's not uncommon for straight men to be attracted to transwomen and passable crossdressers.

 

It's just a label that doesn't matter in the end. You should explore your sexuality so that you don't have regrets later on in life...
Even if it ends up being something you're not into, at least you know!

 

Why do so many people worry about a sexual label to define them? Diversity is in the name of the game so enjoy it

 

Trans women are women, just a different kind of women, so if you are attracted to cis and trans women you're still only attracted to women. As someone who has done a lot of LGBT education and helped support a lot of LGBT youth and adults, I would say that what you're describing is that you are bi-curious. There are plenty of ways to explore that kind of sexuality. I realized I was bi when I was watching porn and I realized that I was watching it for the guys as well as the girls. You could also experiment through things like sexting or writing your own stories and see what gets you going and what doesn't. As for your age, which I assume since you included it is part of why you are nervous about all this, you're never too old to learn things about yourself. My mom who just turned 50 came out as bi earlier this year. And if you're not bi, then that's fine too. Don't feel pressured to turn yourself into something you're not just because you got rejected by a few people. Believe me, as a trans woman, I understand how hard that can be, but sacrificing yourself for a date or a hookup is never worth it. Good luck with all this, and I hope I was able to help some.

 

I think I would disagree with you slightly where you say that trans women are just women - in this particular instance. When it comes to someone questioning their own preferences and sexual identity, I don't think we can say that as a blanket statement.

If he lady in question is fully post op, and has fully transitioned - then absolutely. She's 100% a woman when it comes to someone else's sexuality. So a straight man who fancies her is still a straight man.

Where things become confusing, as in this case, is when a lady has not had bottom surgery - for whatever her reason may be. Because then a straight man has an extra appendage to get his head around, and rationalise within his own sexuality. In this case, the lady, while still recognised as a woman, has an added extra that a fully straight man probably wouldn't be able to accept.

Being trans is used as a gender identity. You rarely see someone saying simply I'm a man or I'm a woman, it's usually I'm a trans man, or I'm a trans woman. Which is why I gave the answer I did above.

Hope that makes sense. Lol. Got distracted halfway through. Intrigued to know your thoughts though!

 

I'd like to empathize the importance of your comment: "You should explore your sexuality so that you don't have regrets later on in life..."
Yes! Explore. Satisfy your curiosity. You will not regret that you did. You will regret that you didn't.
Do it. There's one life for each of us. Don't pass up the ability to satisfy your sexual wants and curiosities.
Memories of things you've experienced are a comfort. Regrets over things you never did, but could have, produce sadness and sorrow.
There's one life for each of us. Live it.
Sexual experiences that I could have avoided are now the ones I highly value.

 

Ever heard of the Kinsey scale? Almost everyone is bi to some degree, even if they never act on it.

 

The hangup most have is in defining "attraction." If you are heterosexual but like sucking dick, some would call that bi-sexual. But is it? If you are not attracted emotionally or physically to the person whose dick you are sucking, I'd argue that you are not truly bi. Gay men are into making love with each other, with kissing, ass fucking and living with each other. Some bi-sexual men may go that far, but not all. So it's really a spectrum, and we all fall somewhere along that. I don't think we actually have a word for heterosexual men who also suck cock. It's HMWASC.

 

Da, sunt bisexual

 

Experimenting doesn't make you anything but curious. If it becomes a way of life then that's a bit different.

 

Honestly you like what you like. Ignore the labels. Live your life the way you want as long as you aren’t hurting anyone else.